The seeds on the rocky soil represent those who hear the message and receive it with joy. But since they don’t have deep roots, they believe for a while, then they fall away when they face temptation.
Luke 8:13
Why do some people start so well as Christians and yet a few years down the track appear to have left the faith? They had heard the message and had “received it with joy.” It made sense to them, all this talk of God and his kingdom, of salvation and new beginnings, of a new life lived by God’s values and wisdom and not their own. They had “prayed the prayer,” gone forward at the meeting to “receive Jesus,” started going to church, signed up for a home Bible study group. Everything was exciting, and full of promise.
But when temptation came they chose another path. They may not even have noticed it. Though the process may have been sudden, it may have been slow, a gradual departure, but the end result was the same – a few months, or a few years down the track, they were no longer interested in the things that had, at first, given such joy to their souls. Something, or someone, else had usurped their attention; something or someone else had become the source of their joy. Jesus and his message no longer “did it for them.”
It does not have to be things that we naturally see as sin that tempt us – gluttony, or laziness, avarice or lust, to name a few of the so called “seven deadly sins” – though all of those kind of things, with their nuances and variations, are there in abundance in our world. Temptation is a process that affects us all in which our thoughts are drawn away from that which is most important towards something that is, in that moment, most attractive. It is an unseen pressure we experience to look in a different direction, follow a different path, to depart from our first love.
But why not follow that new path, if we have indeed found something or someone that offers more happiness, more excitement, more fulfilment? Doesn’t it make perfect sense to do so? Why should we imagine that Jesus is somehow the one and only if we have found something more satisfying? Why do we lose interest in Jesus? Has he changed, become less attractive? Has his message become less compelling, less true? Or is it just that the life that Jesus calls us to is too restrictive, too narrow, too boring?
I liken this process to the phenomenon we call infatuation. Many of us have experienced this. We meet someone, we “fall in love,” we are overwhelmed by emotions that we barely understand, we just know that we like the feeling, we are “in heaven.” The object of our infatuation is perfect, the realisation of all our dreams, the source of all happiness, and we can think of nothing else. All we want is to be close to that person, to look at them, to listen to them, to experience the wonder of their presence. It is intoxicating.
But at some point the feelings start to fade, just as the intoxication of a drinking spree passes. After a night of drinking at best you feel nothing, at worst you have a hangover, a throbbing headache, sick to the stomach, a bad taste in the mouth. The passing of an infatuation is more likely to be the first of these, an emptiness, a vague disappointment. The thing – or person – that was everything to us, seems to have become nothing to us. But we long to get the feeling back, that heady intoxicated feeling of being in love. Or in the case of alcohol, being inebriated. We are tempted to do it all again, whether with a new lover or another bottle.
Perhaps the greatest temptation we face in our contemporary world is not to another person, or another drink, but to the pursuit of good feelings. Yet the pursuit of happiness is seldom seen as a bad thing in our world. We live in an age when we understand good to be a feeling to be somehow grasped, to be possessed. If something feels good, it must be good. We call this feeling happiness. The pursuit of good feelings becomes the purpose of our existence. When something stops making us feel happy, or feeling at all, we look to something or someone else that will. It doesn’t take much reflection to realise how potentially dangerous this belief could be. Yet it is the spirit of the age, and it is hard to resist the temptation to follow that path.
Jesus does not deny the existence of infatuation. He does not even suggest that infatuation in itself is bad. He does not say that feeling good is a bad thing. After all, isn’t that what he means when he says “they hear the message and receive it with joy.” But it is quickly clear from what he says that those first feelings of joy are not enough to sustain a life of faith, just as the infatuation of a romantic relationship ship is not enough to sustain a lifelong marriage. It may be desired, but it is not sufficient.
What is needed is something Jesus describes as “deep roots.” These are what will give strength to resist temptation. These are what makes a life of faith possible. Deep roots means moving past the pursuit of happiness, the obsession with good feelings. It means coming to understand the deep joy of knowing God, which is about him and not about us. When we are infatuated, although we tend to think it is the other person with whom we are in love, we soon realise that it the feelings invoked by the other person that make us happy. When the feelings fade, our interest in the other person fades. We look for someone else who can provide the same reaction within us. We are in love with being in love.
If we are to move from infatuation to love in any relationship we need to grow roots that are deeper than good feelings. We need to get to know and appreciate the real person, not the person of our fantasy. We need to commit ourselves to a relationship which sometimes brings happiness and sometimes brings pain. We need to become focussed on the happiness of the other person, not on our own happiness. We need, in short, to grow up and leave our self-obsession, replacing it with other-person centredness. The same is true of our relationship with Jesus.
But how do we get these deep roots? We need to pray, we need to study, we need to meditate on the life and teachings of Jesus. If it is available we would do well to seek help from others who have already walked this road. Some who are reading this may be people who are already turning to other things for the joy they once experienced in meeting Jesus. To you I say turn back, grow deeper roots, because Jesus will satisfy. Others will be people who have survived the temptations of life, who already have the deep roots needed to nourish a lifetime of faith. To you I say you have a responsibility to help others to grow. Whoever we are we need to constantly dry out to the Holy Spirit to help us grow, because he is the only effective fertiliser for this process.